LIVING LIFE TO THE FULLEST !!!!

     
     

         


                      A few days ago a totally unprecedented incident hit me like a bolt from the blue.A really good friend of mine lost his brother to brain tumor .No symptoms,nothing ; yet in a matter of 2 weeks the healthy athletic boy was reduced to mere skin and bones and shortly thereafter, passed away.Seeing his inconsolable parents and my grief stricken friend i couldn't help but ponder as to how they were going to move ahead with their lives....Rebuild their shattered home minus all those dreams dreamt for their 25 year old son- THE APPLE OF THEIR EYE..

              This, coupled with the occurrence of certain inopportune incidents in my family on account of which a few of my near and dear one's have been living through hell,one day at a time for the past many months , made me contemplate .... it forced me to reminisce a phase of my life wherein,I too watched a person close to me die ..... die a slow and painful death every day for a period of 5 months and there was nothing we could do about it ,except maybe alleviate the pain to a certain extent..   The more i thought the deeper i sank into a feeling of aching despondency.. The loss of losing a beloved cannot be empathized with unless undergone ........

                                  .... which lead me to pen down these lines today.

 1)    For all those of you out there who are facing similar situations....Maybe, seeing a beloved battle it out ...or maybe trying to come to terms with the untimely death of a much loved one..  CRY !!!! 
It is alright to cry .... let those boo ho's out of your system .Trust me, these things are better out than in ! Take some time out and cry your heart out .Whatever be your age !!! Once you unburden your heart ..you feel so much lighter . It enables one to think more rationally instead of being weighed down by our gamut of emotions ...

2)    It is human to feel angry and singled out, but the truth is there are many more out there like us or sadly even worse off ... So instead of throwing tantrums ,  try and channelise this negative energy by doing things that make you happy,thus ensuring you turn your negativity into positive energy . Try listening to MUSIC -especially devotional or carnatic or instrumental.. It soothes the mind and somehow gives one positive vibes.We know we can't change the current scenario, but it somehow gives us the courage and the grit to fight back or simply stay sane amidst all the turmoil and chaos in our life

3)     SHARE your grief. The more you open out , the more you will feel light.If you decide to wallow in self pity ( which most of us do) such grief stays constricted in our heart and over a period of time turns into poison.We start believing that the current predicament we are in has been bought on by our self doings ... life seems worthless and in a blink of a second we lose the will to live ...the will to enjoy ... to appreciate  ... We fall into this abyss of self loathing and envy

4)     ACCEPT that certain things aren't in our hands.. Yes,we are the creator of our destiny but life and death isn't in our hands... after all who wouldn't choose to live,given a choice!!!! Hence, The sooner the digression from The state of DENIAL to ACCEPTANCE, the easier it is to move ahead with one's life.

5)     Try and RESPECT the outcome ,however gut wrenching and heart rendering it is... It ain't easy ,but then it ain't impossible either..After all there are millions out there in worse predicaments. So try and respect the decision of the Almighty...

6)    PRAY ... for a few minutes everyday. . whatever hymns or shlokas you are aware of ..You needn't be a maestro ... Just find some time out of your busy schedules and pray each single day. It calms one's inner self and the sub conscious mind becomes stronger to accept the rigors that life demands...

7)     Slowly try getting back into your normal routine. Yes, you may find a gaping hole at times but pep yourself up time and again. Try keeping yourself BUSY by learning something new ..cultivating a new HOBBY perhaps .. An idle mind is a devil's workshop they say..and for good reason too!!!

8)     Lastly never lose HOPE and try to SMILE ..Yes, maybe our life has turned upside down ..Maybe the sole reason ( or read Person) for whom we live ...ceased to exist.But that certainly doesn't mean that we should cease to live as well...

9)    Try and be a source of INSPIRATION to others around you.If you didn't have a shoulder to cry upon,try and be that shoulder for someone else.. Trust me, it kind of eases out one's pain as well :)

10)   And finally , live life like there's no tomorrow , taking in, each and every bounty of life.. LEARN as much as you can ...make every minute count.Learn to let go of all feelings of animosity and live life with zeal and with no pangs of guilt or regret.SMILE a lot..It's contagious...
         
                         TO SUM THINGS UP ....  ( my favourite dialogue from ROCKY )

" The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows... It is a very mean and nasty place and it will beat you down to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it.... YOU , ME or NOBODY is gonna hit you as hard as life .. But it ain't how hard you hit ; it's all about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take , and yet keep moving forward. That's how winning is done."


   So my friends , let us all live life because sooner or later there shall dawn a day wherein we all shall take a walk down the memory lane and relive those precious moments which made our life so beautiful...moments which made us cry...which made us roll with laughter...moments of despondency...of hope..of despair... of envy... of success.... of love....  and at that point of time i want us to emphatically state ....

                                     YES! I HAVE LIVED LIFE TO THE FULLEST ! :)